How to Use a Strapless Strap-On: Comfort & Control Tips

Quick answer

To use a strapless strap-on comfortably, start with plenty of lubricant, insert the bulb end while squeezing your pelvic muscles, and adjust the angle so both partners feel secure and stimulated.

Step-by-step guide

1. Prepare and lubricate: Apply a generous amount of water-based lubricant to both the bulb end (for the wearer) and the shaft end (for the receiving partner). Silicone toys like the Lovehoney Deep Dive require water-based lube to avoid damaging the material. Skipping lube is the most common reason for discomfort — use more than you think you need.
2. Insert the bulb end while squeezing: As the wearer, gently insert the bulb end into your vagina or anus (depending on your preference) while consciously squeezing your pelvic floor muscles. This helps create a snug grip. Hold the toy in place with one hand until you feel secure. If it slips out easily, try a different angle or switch to a harness-compatible model — not every body can hold a strapless design.
3. Adjust the angle and depth: Once the bulb is seated, guide the shaft end toward your partner. Both of you should experiment with different angles — leaning forward, lying on your side, or using pillows to tilt the hips. The posable shaft of the Lovehoney Deep Dive lets you bend it to a curve that feels stable for both. A straight 90-degree angle often feels unstable; a slight upward curve toward the partner's G-spot or prostate usually improves control.
4. Activate vibrations (optional): If your strapless strap-on has vibrations, turn them on after insertion. The Lovehoney Deep Dive has a rechargeable motor that adds stimulation to both ends. Start on a low setting — vibrations can make the toy harder to hold in place, so get comfortable with the fit first. Vibrations can loosen your grip if you're not fully relaxed; pause movement until you feel the toy is secure again.
5. Move slowly and communicate: Begin with slow, shallow thrusts while both partners check in about comfort and stability. If the wearer feels the toy slipping, squeeze your pelvic muscles and adjust the angle. The rippled texture on the Lovehoney Deep Dive provides extra grip internally, but communication is still your best tool. If the toy keeps slipping, consider using a harness over it for backup — strapless strap-ons work best when bodies are well aligned and relaxed.

Product spotlight

• Lovehoney Deep Dive Posable Rechargeable Vibrating Strapless Strap-On: Made from unbelievably soft silicone with a rippled, bendy shaft and posable pony that stimulate both partners simultaneously. The posable design lets you adjust the curve to match your anatomy, which helps the internal bulb stay in place more reliably than rigid alternatives.